Who do you think you are?
What’s the story you tell yourself about yourself?
Here are some common Enneagram 9 narratives:
“My presence here doesn’t really matter.”
“If I speak up, I’ll disrupt the peace.”
“It’s easier to go along with what others want.”
“I don’t have anything important or interesting to say.”
“People will like me more if I’m easygoing and agreeable.”
“I need more clarity before I can take action.”
“I should wait for the ‘right’ time.”
“If I make a decision, I might regret it.”
“I don’t want to put in all that effort just to fail.”
“If I strive for more, I’ll lose my peace.”
“Success is for people who are more ambitious than me.”
“I can’t be seen as pushy or too much.”
“Money isn’t that important; I just need enough to get by.”
“If I assert myself, people will reject me.”
“Other people’s needs are more important than mine.”
“I’ll be a burden if I ask for help.”
“If I have too many opinions, I’ll create conflict.”
“As long as everyone else is okay, I’m okay.”
“I don’t really know who I am.”
“What I want isn’t as important as what others want.”
“I’m not that special.”
“I don’t trust myself to make big decisions.”
“If I just stay comfortable, everything will work itself out.”
These subconscious stories will determine the choices you make, the people you surround yourself with, and your capacity for growth and possibility.
But you have the power and agency to rewrite them.
When I started challenging these narratives, I started feeling better.
Try rewriting them in your journal and finding ways to prove that the new narratives are true. It’s kind of fun.
