I still remember the day about five years ago when I was weeding my garden and listening to a podcast and realized that I was in victimhood. I had never even considered it before. I just knew that I felt unhappy.
Once I became aware and started taking action in my life, some amazing things happened.
So what does this victimhood look like, specifically for Enneagram Nines, and how can you change it?
A Nine in victimhood:
Is complacent and unresponsive.
Resigns themselves, thinking nothing can be done.
Sweeps problems under the rug.
Fantasizes about a magic solution.
Procrastinates.
An Empowered Nine:
Looks into the problem and becomes part of the solution.
A Nine in Victimhood:
Blames their unhappiness on their circumstances and other people.
Buffers and numbs out negative emotions.
An Empowered Nine:
Takes the time to be with their unhappy feelings but also takes responsibility for their own happiness.
A Nine in Victimhood:
Complains a ton (even if only to themselves.)
An Empowered Nine:
Notices when negativity is creeping in and considers other perspectives.
A Nine in Victimhood:
Idealizes other people, thinking that they have it much easier.
An Empowered Nine:
Sees themselves as equally loveable and capable of creating a life that they want to create.
Everything changed immediately when I started taking responsibility for my happiness. It was truly liberating.
There’s no right or wrong place to be, Dear Nine. I promise.nnWe all have times of falling into victimhood…when we just want to just feel sorry for ourselves and be slothy. (And YES, for women, hormonal fluctuations can play a big part in that.) It is normal for your weaknesses as an Enneagram Nine to slip sometimes. Give yourself those days.
It really helps to recognize when we are in a place of victimhood, though, so we can climb back out. Simply seeing where you are can be really powerful.
If you are tired of feeling like a victim, The Bold Nine Academy can help you find your power again! Come join us today!
